Does My Husband Have Asperger’s (or is he just an asshole)?

Oddly, I can think of many possibilities which may apply to your husband. Here are but a few.

[1] Your husband may have Asperger’s.
[2] Your husband may be an asshole.
[3] Your husband may be an asshole with Asperger’s.
[4] Your husband may be none of the above.

Far more important, though, are the possibilities which may apply to you. Here, based on your question, I can think of only one.

You, ma’am, are without a doubt, an asshole without Asperger’s.